I am a mother of two children & I am in desperate need of assistance for Christmas. I was a bit hesitant to ask for help & especially this early. I felt that with Christmas being two months away, that something may turn my situation around but now I have waited to late to apply for help to most orgs and groups. We have always been blessed in the past & have never had to ask for help and honestly, I have been too humiliated to ask. I found out my little girl had a terminal illness a couple of years ago and things have become really bad this year. I was forced from my job to care for her & things went down hill from there. Living in a small area, there is no help other than food help. The larger city near us had toys for tots but it is over an hour away & I had waited too late for sign up. The last couple of years things began to look up for us so I never anticipated needing help. I feel embarrassed to ask for help. I don’t want to go into my life story here so I will be as breif as possible. As I said, I was forced from my job unexpectedly when my little one was diagnosed as terminal. Things became really bad when my husband was diagnosed with a chronic disease (early parkinsons) & was forced from work himself. We have signed up for help with ss but he has been turned down due to age. Things became harder but I was picking up childcare & cleaning jobs that I could do with my daughter & trying to sell what I could on yahoo groups. Although barely, we were getting by. On top of this, we have had to travel often to doctors out of state which has really been hard. She has insurance to cover the medical portion, but we have to pay the gas & other expenses ourselves. We had managed to keep things up until April of this year & things started falling apart. I lost two of my cleaning jobs when the elderly ladies passed. I still have two but they don’t begin to cover things. Every cent I get goes towards our living expenses & when I have fell behnd, I have sold whatever I can to get by & not ask for help. I had hoped something would come along, but it has’nt & I don’t know what else to do. I am not lazy or someone who wants a hand out. I am so ashamed of asking but I don’t want my children being hurt because I can’t provide. We have always worked & provided with no help from anyone until all of this hit. I would get a loan to avoid asking for help but honestly, I have bad credit due to the past situations & loads of medical bills from all of my family. I know that it looks horrible. I don’t know of anything else at this point. I didn’t just count on posting for help & doing nothing to help myself. I have tried all else before humilating myself by asking for help. I would never be asking for help if I knew any other route. If anyone can suggest any groups out there or other help, I am open & desperate. I thank you so much for reading this & would deeply appreciate any thoughts or advice. I have searched all of the churches in the area and all other resources in our area but it is too late. I appreciate you taking the time to read. God bless you all & thanks.
I Have A Terminally Ill Little Girl & Have Fallen Into A Bad Situation For Xmas. Does Anyone Know Of Any Help?
Oct - 30 | By: AHT | 9 comments.
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I would try posting this on freecycle.com, in your local area of course. Maybe someone has some used toys and clothes and stuff that your kids would love. Its free. Someone may even have new things.
Join Cafemom.com… Its a group of moms, and they have groups with people offering help and needing help… Maybe another family or mom on there would sponsor you guys for Christmas.
It wouldn’t hurt to try craigslist.com either.. Maybe someone is giving away something free on there they your kids would like, or maybe someone will read this and bless your family this Christmas.
Wishing you all the best.
Why not contact your family and/or local merchants and see if someone would be willing to hold a benefit for your family.
You could also recontact the churches and other resources and see if they have any recommendations.
Go to the local Salvation Army church and sign up for Christmas assistance.
i am so sorry for your situation. i would keep trying to sign up for these things as maybe they could fit you in. also try your local veterens organizations such as american legion, vfw, amvets, they may possibly know other helpful places plus sometimes they have programs of their own for needy families. also if god forbid your loved one needs the hospital out of state again, look for a ronald mcdonald house nearby. they dont cost anything and its a place for you and your family to stay near that loved one. i really hope things get better for you. keep your chin up.
Grab a hold of everything you have, know and love.
Appreciate it to the fullest.
Don’t feel ashamed to ask for help, please. If we would all just open our hearts to one another, this world may be more compassionate and understanding. I’m sixteen. I don’t know much that could help you out. I guess though, you shouldn’t say all your doors are closed. You have your two little girls and husband with you. Be together, have good times together, all the good times you can squeeze into life. Let it be a picnic at the park with a blanket and some bubbles. Let it be a walk down the beach, staring at the horizons. We all share the same problem with money these days, but in a way, it sheds light on the wonderful free things. What do your daughters like to do? Buy them a box of crayons and ask them to draw you something every day you are together, to cherish every day and memory that you still can hold on to. Life is terminal as well. Christmas may be hard, but don’t forget the true meaning. It won’t matter to them how much you did or didn’t spend. Just be happy. You could build them a cute little house with some cardboard boxes and paint it for them. Tell them they just missed Santa, but that he left that for them. I remember my mom once said that, lol. Clothes, children do need clothes. Do you know how to sew? Fabric is cheap if you find some at nearby swap meets and inexpensive shops. I was watching The Sound of Music, where she steals the curtain and makes all the kids clothes. Do whatever it takes, and don’t give up. Think hard, think creative, think with your heart and God bless! You’ll make it through, you always do.
i’m so sorry to hear about this. don’t focus too much on gifts and all that this year. could you make cookies with the kids instead? have a games day and play together. do you have a television? the kids will enjoy the xmas movies. long term, i think you ought to apply for state benefits. you are obviously out of your depth, and you need the extra help. don’t be too proud to apply.
You could tell them a cool story about something exciting you did one christmas when you were little.
I always like to listen to the things my dad tells me about his childhood.
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I[‘m so sorry to hear about your situation. You might consider calling a local Wal-Mart and see about their toys for tots program. You should also talk to a pastor in person and tell them your situation. Thats what Churches are there for. They are supposed to help. Not just have some big program to sign up for and if you miss it then you’re out of luck. If thats the case try a smaller Church and tell them everything that you just said. If a Church turns you away after that then there is something wrong.
Praying for you and yours. I have two nephews that are terminal too. It’s absolutely heart breaking. And I don’t know how it works there but here you get denied for SS and you reapply. It takes about three times to get accepted and then after that you get all the back pay from the first time he applied.
Hope I’ve been of some help and I’ll be looking for other answers for you.
if you’ve tried all the churches and things in your area, i don’t know what else to tell you to do. how much do you pay for your internet and things like that? kids don’t NEED to have things for Christmas. be happy that you have your kids, and just spend some time together.
good luck.