My fiance and I are at a loss. His son (different mother, who doesn’t pay support, doesn’t see the child) lives with his grandmother. The boy’s been in the grands home since 18 months (with dad living there too until 3 years ago), but the grands told him when he moved in with me 3 years ago, to take his stuff but not his son. My fiance reluctantly did it and has been seeing his boy on the weekends (and he travels 45 minutes each way to do so.) Now there’s a problem with his son’s medical insurance and they’re wanting to sue for custody for incurance and other monetary reasons (tax breaks). They refuse to let us keep him in our home (which has extra room for him) permanently. They have this child believing that his dad doesn’t want much to do with him and they tie up his son’s schedule to the point it ruins weekends. Should we fight to get him or let them take over when it seems all they want is money? We’re stuck and don’t know what to do. Help??!!
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Consult an attorney asap. Unless there is some overwhelming reason why he is not a fit parent, the courts usually side with the natural parents when determining custody. A friend of mine was in a similar situation until recently. The only problem with her was that her mother actually convinced her to sign over custody, so she could cover medical expenses and stuff like that. Then when my friend wanted her son back, her mom kept adding new requirements before she would allow it. Do not let this drag on for years like it did with my friend.
You guys should fight to get him so that his son won’t say, “My grandparents are right about my dad”.
You guys have an extra room and everything to properly care for him so it would be unwise to let them take over. Don’t leave the child with money hungry people.
Fight it. Parents who fight over their children are usually (not always) doing it for the well-being of the children. The circumstances could be a judge’s decision. I was having some problems regarding myself – not tax benefits. He very seldom paid, and continues to not pay, due to his unemployment. He threatened to sue me for single custody. Little did he know, or refused to accept, how it would affect our teenage daughters. He would have uprooted these kids and moved them from Ohio to Florida. THAT is NOT for their well-being. If you can’t afford a lawyer, try Legal Aid. It might take a while, but it would be worth it.